Rings on or Rings off??? Thats' my new issue!

[Kim07]

Hey guys,

Haven't been around for awhile, well actively posting anyway.

Question for anyone whose up to it: If 2 people are working on their marriage, ie. living apart but doing things together, staying overnight at each other's houses and going on some trips whether work related or play,,,would you show solidarity in wearing your wedding ring?

I feel it is important to wear the ring in support and respect for the marriage, your spouse and for what the ring stands for. My H does not feel that way, in fact he won't even tell me where the ring is and sometimes says that he hasn't been able to find it. This disturbs me since there are now 2 rings lost that I gave him back in July of 07'. When H said he didn't want a D and wanted to work on our M I put my ring back on,,I was the one who had him served w/D papers last year around this time.

H keeps saying that he has done everything that I have asked of him,,which for me cannot be as important as this,,putting the ring back on and moving into my house(I have new one he has old one).

For me this is a real deal breaker and even H has said, 'we need to sh!) or get off the pot', which I agree but I told him that I will NOT go back to that house b/c of too many bad memories, wanted to start over. I also said 'absolutely not' to living together with the notion that we are roommates, not wearing our wedding rings and 'giving it a try' attitude when I have sooo much to lose in this deal.

I guess i'm still having a hard time trusting and taking a leap of faith when my future is on the line! This house is my only egg in the basket while he has many on his own but he wants ours to stay separate.

Any thoughts guys???

Kim