Here's my question, should I tell him that I plan on filing or just have him served? If we do end up divorced I don't want it to be an ugly divorce (yes, I know they are all ugly).
I think you're in a great place mentally so no matter what happens you will be good! My opinion is that it is more honorable to tell beforehand.
My H didn't tell me and it was such a shock, painful shock to get them in the mail. He said he meant to call me but his cell was down or something, like he couldn't have emailed me or used a land line or something? Just was a coward I think. It takes some courage maybe to tell the person but I do think it's the right thing to do. Karen
