Hey hon, allow me to play devil's advocate. My stbx was also barely a father to the kids, the year before he left he'd barely spent 1hr with them per day or look their way.
When we signed the sep. agreement back in March he asked for joint custody and 3x a week with them(which in my state is different from physical custody) I agreed, not because he was a great parent or because the thought of my kids near crazythen-ow didn't make me physically ill, but because for bad or good, he is their dad, they kids needed to see him and have him in their lives.
Babe, I don't doubt you are a great parent, perhaps the better parent, but your little girl needs him--and legally even if you tried you couldnt' stop ow from being around them (I checked into that back then).
He actually wants her around, despite all the stupid @ss decisions he's made he actually wants to be a dad to her.
Think about this ok? he doens't deserve her, but she needs him in her life, she already has a great mom i know, but she still needs him as her father figure.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
