Well the extended family was at extremes...when H and I were on speaking terms my father would speak to him (suprised me) saying that if he was being civil to me there was no reason not to...
For religious and moral reasons (which H was aware of and respected)my mother, sister, and even our adult daughters didn't speak to him unless it was family business (adult dauther2 didn't find any business necessary with him for the two years he was gone). My neice, whose wedding we were at when he kissed me "good bye", well I am not sure if she is speaking to him yet...they have been together at family functions but she was so hurt by what he did to me that she literally cut him out of ALL of her wedding pictures! She does attend family functions with all of us and know one would know how she felt...like I said, I haven't noticed if she has talked to him or not...but he understands now how much he hurt everyone else...not just me and he allows them their feelings...doesn't push or try and explain anything to them...if they want to talk they will...he is open...
My brother has spoken to him but in the beginning he was mad at me for taking him back...he went through a nasty divorce with his first wife (she cheated and got pregnant!)and I was there with him through that...so he felt he needed to defend me...but he is okay now..
As far as it is now things are good with everyone...even our old friends...they see how I feel and realize it was a good thing for us to reconcile...
And...I NEVER EVER thought I would see the end of this...I never thought I could outlast his MLC...I feel like the winner of Survivor...outwit, outplay, outlast...it took faith...not just in "us" but in me...I had to come to terms with the fact that H might not return...I had to find peace with that and know that I would be OKAY...and I prayed a lot of me, my family, and to make the best decisions for us all...
