Rob,
I am going to play Devil's Advocate here and say , i really hope that once the evaluator thought there was domestic abuse, your L didn't sell you out. So sorry to say but that is what it sounds like. I just don't see how your L fought for you with the parent evaluator or the court. The possibility of you paying her legal fees is very real, now that they have basically said you are at fault. How could your L allow this to have happened. It is all just so sad, your D is a casualty of this. Just take heart, they can't get blood from a stone and they can't take what you don't have. All your W did was cheat her own D. One day she will face this and while you may be financially raped, she will have given up her soul. Trust me, she will tire of being a single MOM and you will end up with your D. All she will will really win is a few bucks, and a momentary victory