This is just my opinion, okay? I believe since the seperation has been a short time and there has been no divorce set in motion, and especially since you are very vulnerable right now, that going out with a woman that seems to have the "hots" for you would be playing with fire. I know you could finds a thousand excuses to go out and have fun......and you should.....just not with a good looking, sexy woman that sounds like she would be easy to get into bed. You have enough problems on your hands without getting another person involved in this mess. Besides, movies like "Fatal Attraction" and some more keep coming to mind....lol.
You do want to GAL, and you do want to be somewhat mysterious to your W, but you do not want to intentionly try to make her jealous with another woman......not that I think this is what you were doing here. I think you are lonely and want a woman's company. That is what concerns me! Even if you were not attracted to her.....even if you were just a "friend"......being as vulnerable as you are could be dangerous.
So, I hope you will think it over carefully. If the woman asks any questions, I would thank her very much and tell her you are most flattered, but as long as you are still married, that you don't feel that you need to set yourself up in a situation that could make things worse. Of course, if she is pushy and starts coming back with all kinds of responses to your reasons......then you just need to firmly say, "Thanks, but no thanks", b/c she is out for more than just being a "friend" for you! That is the type of female that you need to stay away from.
Anyway, hope you will think it over carefully.
Take care, Sandi
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
