..and more time apart lets you breathe...and lets you get a chance to get away from the anger leveled at you.
Use this time to look inward and grow. Don't blame yourself. This is self-victimization. Remember SD..she was the one who made this decision, not you.
I wish to say one thing to you....man to man:
SD...if you can truly look back and recognize what your contributions were to this mess...and you are sorry for that and changing those things...then...FORGIVE YOURSELF, find peace and move forward.
We all make mistakes in life. Some forgive. Some get lost in anger and vindictiveness. I would rather live my life with the former.
Forgive yourself for any mistakes you made and become stronger knowing that you have the power to look inward, recognize this and become a better man because of it.
She can't...and that may NOT be the person you want to spend eternity with.
You are doing better, my friend. Stay the course. I have a 5 year old daugther. Don't forget this book:
I got dirty looks because I let them stay up late..on a school night..to watch the Wizard of Oz with me. Quality time is what counts. Be in the moment for her. Don't talk against your W to her. Be supportive. Let your D know that you still love your W. Let her know that you will always be there for her. Let her know you would never hurt mommy EVER and at the most, "mommy and daddy are just sad right now but this has NOTHING to do with YOU."
Stay on the high road. We DO that as men. FIB
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
