Hi ACJ! Been thinking a lot about you and your sitch, and hoping and praying for the best outcome for you and your children.
I think once your D13 has grown up, and finished school, she will have a very different outlook on life, and her expectations for you will be very different too. Still, doesn't mean you should not pursue a good R if it comes along. You might find that D13 will be happy for you, if you are happy. She is just at a very difficult stage in life, and just needs a couple of years to adjust to all the new situations in her life. I am glad you will be able to keep the house - one good, stable thing in her life, and the other kids too. And, this might be at a good time in the market for you to be buying your H out. I assume, that the current market prices will be considered, and not possible future prices?
Isn't it amazing how things can work out with just a grain of faith? It's been happening to me too, lately.
Take care.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim