I am 100% onboard with the hockey thing. As soon as I get may cardio up to a place where I wont embarrass myself I am going to start up again. W does not go out at night. She did at the beginning but more recently she has lied to me about where she was going during the day.
Financially I cut her off except for a place to live with D. I She has agreed to pay for everything else including 1/2 of all bills except the mortgage.
She won’t admit to A and I have had several semi-successful attempts to out it. But ultimately every time she comes up with some BS to explain where she was or what she was doing. I know I probably don’t belong in Piecing with my post but I would like to know #1 is trying piecing or does the spouse need to have a total turn around and be back in the M 100%? And #2 what should I ask of my W if she decides to give things a try again? I know I want transparency, communication (including what she wants out of an R and weather or not I am hitting the target), and an honest attempt to leave resentment and anger behind are the things that I need. I know giving the resentment will be as hard as getting her to admit A.
