New Thread-Husband Moved in With OW(T2L)

[marisol35]

(((((hugs))))) to you hope and to your daughters.....I know exactly how they are feeling. My D16 is the same way with her dad. She won't look at him much less talk to him since he moved out on 8/21. He calls her occassionally to ask if she will ever talk to him, that he misses her, and that he would like to take her to dinner to talk. I told her to do it when she is ready. She has to let it all out whether its yelling, crying, getting angry, or whatever the case may be she must get those feelings out and not keep them bottled up inside because it will eat away at her and she would never be able to start healing from this whole situation. I also told her that when she is ready that she must make it clear to him that it is a conversation between him and her ONLY. She needs to talk to him ALONE (not with anyone else in the picture - like OW).

Keep your daughters close and take care of them like you have been. Keep GALing and be courageous through this. The day he moves will be very painful, you will be in shock when you don't see his things in the closet, and when it hits you that he won't be there in the morning or come home from work. That was the hardest part for me. Sometimes I would just sit at the counter waiting for my H to come in through the garage. But every day that passes it gets a little easier. Filling your time with activities will make it even better. You will make it.

T2L you sound so strong and positive. I am so happy for you! Time does heal all wounds..... The more time you are having for yourself and empowering yourself the stronger you become and know that you can make it with or without him.

I hope everyone else is doing good....

As for me, I am meeting a paralegal today to go over the D papers and file a response. It was something for me to look at those papers and see his signature. It's just so hard to accept and know that there are still strong feelings between us. Its a connection we have had since our teenage years. I just don't want to let go so easily but I have no choice if that is what he wants. But deep down inside of me I feel like it is not that he wants it but that he didn't know what else to do because he has messed up our marriage so badly and believes that he can't fix it. He told his mom that I am better off without him and that I will be happier not being with him. I just see him struggling so much that I just want to reach out and help. I know that would be backsliding but I can't bare to hear him talk the way he has been. I just don't know. It's so hard. I'm trying to be a friend to him like I have read in other stories where the spouse continued being friends and ultimately their mates returned to them. I want the same thing. I want him to fall in love with me again and to feel what it feels like with me.

Anyways! I'm babbling......

Remember! I am strong, I am courageous, I have the power to get through this because I am a strong woman, I am beautiful, I deserve the best and nothing less!!!!!!!