First my H is not saying he even wants me... he wants out and keeps saying he wasn't happy, I can't change, people can't change etc.. so he is not coming back to me an then to her..which I wouldn't allow. The first 3 weeks he stayed at the house and was saying he is so confused. But then he started being so disrespectful that I told him he needs to leave this house.
We actually did everything together during out marriage but we also had our own hobbies, I play tennis he loves golf and we respected that this was important to do. I would have girls night out once a month, he'd have guys golf weekends once a year etc.. so I thought it was a good balance. So he knows I needed him I think it came down to the fact I wasn't showing him as much respect the last few years... controlling too much with the kids etc.
Your point about IVF he did mention it bothered him when we were in the process of deciding what to do, so now that I'm learning that he keeps a lot in the fact that he even said anything means it bothered him more than I knew. What do you do now... he doesn't want to work on "us" and is spending all his time with his 25 yr old...
I think his boss knowing is important but to your point what am I going to get out of it... he'll be pissed at me probably.. will it make him end it with her? and if for some reason he comes back I don't want him coming back to me b/c he had to break it off with her.. I want him to want to come back.
I'm sitting tight this weekend, he just moved out Monday but I'm not going to let him tell everyone we are seperated without them knowing the why?? some disclosure will happen at some point.
thanks and good info to process.
Me: 38/H:40 M:7yrs TG: 10yrs 2Girls: 4yr & 7 month old Bomb 8/22/08 OW/EA/PA 8/23/08 with 25yr old Moved out 9/22/08
