Playhouse

[Yoyowife]

Ya'll are too sweet.

I have been doing lots of reading on here of other people's threads. It's amazing seeing reading situations that are so similar to mine and reading the feedback they get. You know what they say sometimes you learn a lot by just listening. Well, I've learned a lot by just reading.

As you all know I have been in Limboland for far too long. I'm ashamed to admit, but the end of Oct. will be 2 years. I've enabled my H to be one of the biggest cake eaters ever. Something I'm definitely not proud of. Has it gotten me anywhere? Sometimes yes, but as many know, he continues to sway back and forth.

I have gotten much stronger. Yes, I still have my weak moments, but I am getting really close to getting off of this rollercoaser. I know that when I get to the point that I can no longer take his cake eating I better be prepared for him to leave forever. That's what has held me up, I need to be abolutely sure I can handle it and I think I'm getting there fast.

Now, here is the point I'm getting to. Some of you know that H filed for a D the summer of 2007 but called it off the summer of 2008 because he wanted to reconcile. Well, we are still separated I don't see him any closer to coming home. He still continues to find reasons to call me and sometimes see me (mainly at ballgames and such), but I do not call him unless absolutely necessary, financial or children only.

I'm thinking it's about time for me to file and get on with my life. I have told him before I thought it was time for him to file again, that I was tired of living this way. He says he's still not sure. He told me last time that he was still swaying! I'm wanting to get daughter's homecoming ceremonies out of the way and then take care of my life.

Here's my question, should I tell him that I plan on filing or just have him served? If we do end up divorced I don't want it to be an ugly divorce (yes, I know they are all ugly). I just want to make sure we share our assets 50/50. We own a business and I don't want to get into a lot mudslinging. I'm a silent partner in the business. I have my own career and and contributed to the household budget and he has always run the business although it was our joint money that began the business.
Both of our names are on the corporation. So we are both entitled to half of all of our personal and business assets. Although when he first wanted the divorce he wanted all of the business and he would trade me other things, I'm not that stupid!