Hi . . . I'm sorry that you have to go through this, as well. What are your goals and plans? Are you 'acting as if' you prefer to stay married, but it's ok that he move out? What are you doing to stay sane? Do you have friends that are supportive and encourage your hopes? . . . I will.
I think that getting us to Eggshell Walk is a way to set up emotional barriers and maintain control. I learned not to be angry at it, but as I am respectful, I am learning to set up my own boundaries.
You have an advantage that he can actually 'see' your new actions. I believe very strongly that we communicate to them with our behavior . . . less words.
I am trying to show him that I respect myself and that I am taking care of myself in a strong, positive, friendly, and joyful way. It is difficult for me to stay consistent with it. I realized that I miss his emotional support.
I'd like him to see that I'm not available for him. I have my life with my friends, and I have my interests. My goal is for him to initiate contact with me . . . so I can show him all of this. I am still working on me.
