Darling...I could not live under those circumstances. So please do understand that if you keep going forward with him, you are choosing to live a lifestyle with him that most women could not endure....his drinking and hanging out with other women, even if no hanky-panky, is just way over the top for most people. I hope you know that! I hope you don't think that what you are doing is the same thing as "standing by your man". You already stood by him for the big bomb, and since that time, he appears to want to still have a tiny slice of cake now and then (at least in the form of drunken, forgotten phone numbers slipped into his wallet). Honey - - what is the real reason that you believe you should stick around for this?