Whether you realize it or not, the contempt is oozing out of you for your H. I know that you feel inside that you have every right to feel that way about him...but it is never going to get you any closer to your goal. It will always simply push him away, no matter what he has done that may have caused your contempt.
I know this is a hard pill to swallow, after you feel you've already had to make all the concessions and understanding and sacrificing of your needs. But the bottom line in a case like yours is that unless YOU change, he will not change. The more you stay the same, the more he will as well.
