What about getting back on a hockey team? Keeps you in shape, gets you out of the house in a great atmosphere... smoking half oz.. uh, probably not a good plan. :-)
What doesn't she like about you GAL? I don't think you should leave her with relatively new D too often... but does she go out at night? Again, do you interact with your D as much as possible?
Maybe I should read your initial posts; I'm trying to find the balance, while she's in hesitation mode, between making sure you are the better option and tipping the scale back in your direction. That is, making her see what she's losing and realizing that she can. Sometimes her getting mad isn't a bad thing. You need her respect and attention and I'm glad to read that you've come a long way in getting your confidence and security back, but if she's using you to finance her A, she won't be attracted to you. We kind of teach people how to treat us.
Working on your trust issues would be one of the first steps in working on your marriage... you need transparency for that-- those passwords-- I don't believe her explanation for the myspace messages. I'm sorry if I sound mean, I'm just on your side because you are here and it's really important that you take care of you because you can't keep her from making stupid mistakes and losing a husband that loves her this much. You can, however, show her what a confident, loving, husband will do to save his family.
Sometimes people will not change their behavior until the pain of continuing that behavior is greater than the pain of changing it. She's going to have to give something up. People will be hurt. There is no getting around that. But your D is innocent, she deserves to learn what working through problems in a relationship is like. So do you and your W.
