It did not go well... His attorney tried to convince me that he tried an exact case and the woman lost full custody and has to split parenting time with her cheating h and ow. Nice tactic to try to scare me to back down...
Then, stbx actually accused me of starting arguments with him in front of D5 and said that the only reason why I am doing this is because I don't like ow. No sh!t I don't like her!!! And, I don't want her lying, immoral a$$ around my child either!!!!!
Sure do.. Stbx is now trying to be nice and "reason" with me. Stating his case to me that he is a good Dad and knows that D5 needs structure and he can give her that. I don't buy it. He's never been a 50% Dad in the past.. Why should he get to now?
I think the thing that upsets me most is having to drag this out and bring all of the personal stuff out into the open.
He shouldn't, especially since the pos ow is hanging around. I would ask that she is NOT to be around your daughter when she is with him. Definately. She doesn't need the added confusion.
Of course she needs structure, and he needs a good swift kick in the azz
me: 37 H: 44 Married for 18 years this june S7 S3 porn issues, and much more... since 7/06
Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.
Unfortunately, he has already exposed her (and I have "allowed" it - though kicking and screaming) to the ow too much for me to be able to legally get that through he courts now. My advice to others is that if you feel strongly about it, don't let your kids be exposed to op - get it in the temporary order! I messed up on that...
The thing is, is if he cared at all about his own daughter he wouldn't WANT to confuse her at all, but he's being completly selfish and is not thinking of her feelings just his own at this point.
Hang in there sweetie
me: 37 H: 44 Married for 18 years this june S7 S3 porn issues, and much more... since 7/06
Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.
He is competely selfish. That is why we're fighting about custody. He realized that I was going to get something that he wasn't and freaked out.
I talked to my Dad for a long time this afternoon - not my Mom - she is waaaay too opinionated. Anyway, he had the same questions as me.. How can the courts rule for pure joint custody when stbx was never a 50% Dad to begin with?? He thinks it's so unfair when I've been such a good Mom He told me that I could NOT give in or give up this fight and that they would pay whatever L fees were involved.
My Mom did say something that brought tears to my eyes... She is so concerned that they will be excluded from a lot of D5's life in the future. She said that is so upsetting to her because my Dad is such a great male role model for D5. Awww... Yup.. I was a Daddy's girl, too!
