In short, you have the knowledge but only time and patience are going to promote true wisdom.
Jak,
As hard is it is Amy said it all. I too at one time dug and dug and found the "Knowledge" (if that is what you want to call it) on the OM and my Wife. Then came the question "now what" I could bury my marriage in revenge. I could have destroyed the OM marriage. Or I could just wait and see. What I did was wait and see and I have learned so much about my wife (good and bad) that I never realized. The OW is not your friend. I don't know your sitch totally but ANYONE that would get in between a married man and a woman. (Or I guess now a days man and man or woman and woman.... well I would not mind getting between a woman and woman) has NO morals and NO Self Respect. Everyone including myself has not had the opportunity and slight urge to "be with" somebody that was not your spouse at one time. But it's our self respect and morals that separate us from the animals that just "do it". Being married I have seen many women that were extremely attractive. I have had brief thoughts about what it would be like to "be with" them. But....they came and went. (The thoughts). During one of our conversations W said "you don't even really know the OM) I told her “I know he does not respect his wife, I know he lies, and I know he does not respect your or his wedding vows... What else do I need to know?" She did not answer... I am kind of rambling here, sorry but the stress about wife’s job is getting to me. I can't imagine what it is doing to her inside. Out side she seems calm. But I know it means allot to her.
Later
Dr LOve
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
