Originally Posted By: transformer
Dawn has given you such great advice. It must be MLC cycling.


Awww... I haven't even been at this as long as many people here, but I think my personality may just be more "suited" for DBing than some...and AD's help a lot, too! ;\)

Don't let his cycling trigger YOU to cycle. It's his drama, and you don't have to play if you don't want to. Sometimes people say, "It would be so great if he would just suddenly WAKE UP and do the 'I coulda hadda V-8' thing and say 'I can't believe how CRAZY and STUPID I've been--I'm so in love with you, I never want to lose you again!' and actually STICK WITH that attitude!!" Don't we all wish!?! But in all the time I've been on this board, I have never heard of it happening that way. It's the classic MLC dance, which is far closer to a circle than a straight line. ILY...no, I don't...I want to save our M...no, I want to be with OP...I want you...oh, wait, you're actually toxic to me...you're an angel...you're the devil's offspring...reel in...push away...flirtatious...cold...

And they can't possibly imagine why we want to smack them and yell, "Pick a direction already, willya??!!"

Only you can say whether you should keep at it. Remember, you don't have to plan for the rest of your life right now...just take it a day at a time. I think this is where people get hung up sometimes...looking too far into the future and borrowing trouble that may never materialize (and I'm just as guilty as anyone else, here!). Detach, detach, detach, and take care of yourself. Think of him as an interesting psychological study subject. Don't burn any bridges unless you can make the decision to do so from that still, calm place inside yourself, which may take you a while to find under the circumstances.

You can do this! I know you can! Hugs....

Peace and courage,
Dawn

Me 45/H 47, no kids
Together since 1985; M/1992
Bomb1 (EA-OW1, age 22) 2001
Bomb2 (EA/PA-OW2, age 22) 10/2007, A continues
H left 11/24/08
minimal contact, no legal action
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