New Thread-Husband Moved in With OW(T2L)

[Trying2live]

Oh my gosh. I am so sorry.{{breathe}}. Ok {{Hugs}}. I think you did fine. Under the circumstances and I wouldn't worry about DB'ing. You did fine.
Your girls are in good hand. Those are your hands. You will know exactly what to do and to say when you need to. If you can get your daughter into therapy and one that is solution based. Either way she is going to have the full range of emotions. Your children are smart. All children universally can see, hear and spot truth. They know it. They will know that your H is being selfish as did my kids. And if my H lied about something I backed it up with truth. I told them as much as you would like to trust your dad for now we cant. He is not the daddy that we knew. That person doesn't exist anymore and I don't want you to be hurt if he promises or says things and he doesn't do it. I am very honest with my kids. Kids respect that. They appreciate straight shooters. So shoot straight.

My kids did. We went through a terrible time in August but now things are calming. Somethings happened with my daughter that never in a million years did I expect. But God is faithful and things were discovered and we talked and were on track again.

You can bet that he called OW. You see they stop confiding in us. They stopped the friendship with us. So they always call them. My H told me,"Oh she was so proud of me that I told you guys so quickly." I'm sorry but who gives a ****. Oh sorry guys. It's all so lame self centered and annoying. I don't claim to be perfect, but I just know you sacrifice for the family. Go off after your last one turns 18. Ok I'm going to stop ranting.
So now is your chance to shine friend. Detach and become indifferent, sweet, busy GAL'ing. Time to go to work, that's if you still want to. My H has been gone since 2 weeks after discovery(May). I am now, kind of just a tiny tiny bit enjoying the free time. I am actually dreading more if he does decide to come home. That's when the super hard work begins.
Ya know, deep down inside, this was my deepest darkest fear that most people did not know about-except for my H. And guess what it happened. And to my surprise I'm still alive. And for what it is I'm ok. So now that my deepest fear is over there is almost relief. Like nothing really matters now.
I know its hard. My heart goes out to you. keep in touch. Post or call ok.