Life Outside the Hurricane's Eye

[BethM]

HAHAHAHA..........

I LOVE IT! Oh Gyps, I know the feeling and I feel your pain. Wasn't that uncomfortable?

In an effort to be more of a pal to my ex I decided to take golf lessons and play. I guess you could say I "played" but it was a pathetic effort.

One of the perks of divorce was knowing that I would never have to face another hole, unless it was my choice!

Love,
Bethie

[ernest88]

I twisted and much to my horror, there is it was. I'd grown a testicle

!

Yep, having testicles can be a bad thing at times..LOL

[smith18]

Gypsy, you make playing golf sound like a Harlequin romance novel.

[smartcookie]

I agree with Kerry, I think I need a cold shower after reading that !!! I am figuring out why guys like it tho, holes, balls, rough, I'm seeing a pattern here.

LOL

[Ready2Change]

I'm not being selective in who I strike a conversation with

This is a freeing experience. Keep it up

After 26 years of being with him, talking to other men is very different

It will get easier every time you do it. It will feel uncomfortable at first, but keep plugging along untill you are comfortable talking to every guy.

I'm learning to let go of the protective shield to engage with other guys

Face your fears. You are a strong lady.

Of course, my next problem is.. that with the sexual abuse, my trigger response to a guy being nice to me is that it should become sexual

It is OK to feel good when talking to guys. You know your boundaries. Set them. Move them when you are ready.

In my twenties I didn't know how to handle that, somehow thinking that was 'normal'

it is normal

...Now it's time to learn how to just 'be' without getting sucked into that twisted line of thinking...

Good boundary

Very very strange... and it requires a lot a lot of trust.

You are in control of your thoughts,words and actions. Listen to that little voice....

...I mean, how many guys would respect me learning my boundaries when sex could be 'that' close...

Most guys should NOT know the boundary is so close....may be a time for some personal growth to move your boundary

I think that's another one of the reasons I keep the weight packed on

How does this make you feel?

*hugs*

[No Longer BH]

Gypsy, may I saw that you grew some testicles awhile ago when you learned to stand up to you ex. Still, the feeling of actually having a ball down there must have been, um, hmm...unique. You put a smile on my face. Thank you for your story!

[Ready2Change]

Bras with pockets.....Gypsy million dollar idea!

[Virtually_Handsome]

Oh, my! Golf stories!

I did go to the driving range on the way home from work today. More success than usual, so I'm sure I will be horrid this weekend!

Oh, last night I dreamed I'd made a hole-in-one, but before we got to the green, a giant squirrel had moved the ball out of the hole, and left it nearby. So, we spent I don't know how long trying to figure out if the ball had really gone in, of whether we had been fooled!

I have never kept extra balls in my bra, however. For some reason.....

[Gypsy]

Hello Lusciousness Herself..

I would joke that playing golf was a long term commitment to marriage. Ooops. I've played two rounds this year way down from last year. While at the club, I'd get all sad because of what was missing. I no longer follow the sport or care about what Tiger Woods does. It was all for him it seems.

You're right, the side benefit of divorce is doing what you want when you want it. Not that it makes up for the loss of the relationship, it provides momentum to rebuild a life in as healthy and positive a manner possible.

*hugs*

[Gypsy]

Well... Mikey,

For guys, I don't even want to imagine the embarrassment much less the pain of a testicle falling out of your shorts!

*giggles and hugs*