I wanna break in a new matress!!! Lol. It's been far too long. . .you have both got more action than me this week! No fair. Not that I'm counting or anything. . .hehe.
Today was a great day. Silly girl time. Couldn't ask for more.
No contact from/with hubby today so that is kind of a bummer but the more I let him be the better. Because the faster he sorts things out in his cave the sooner he comes out and I get him again!
I gotta go back to work tomorrow But it's ok. I'll survive.
We were texting today at work and I asked what he was doing this weekend and he said nothing yet but that he was working a little. I said that I was going to be available on Saturday or Sunday afternoon in case he got lonely. He said ok that we would see.
In the past "we'll see" has meant yes. So here's to hoping that is still the case!
It does hurt my feelings that he is not reaching out to me as much as I would like but I guess I just have to wait it out, one day he will be more interested again. I feel like once we see each other and have a good day together we will get back in the routine of things like we for the last two months until our blowout last week. I just need to give him some fresh, positive memories rather than the memory of a fight to get him interested again.
I know I said I would go dim but in the past that has not worked, and when I initiate a little I get a response. I asked him in a non pressure way and just mentioned that next week is gonna be kinda nuts for me so it might be best to do something this weekend. At least he didn't say no.
The one thing I have been thinking about a lot today is the fact that he said that he hasn't given up on us yet. I just found it encouraging today because when you read through these boards so many WAS say they are done, they don't want the relationship, etc. My husband has never said that he wants to give up, he has just been confused this whole time. He has also never said ILYBNILWY like so many others. I'm not trying to be mean and rub that in anyones face I was just thinking that there still are a lot of positives in my situation even when we are not talking everyday. It still feels weird to me but that is because I got so used to everyday interaction.
Well that's my daily update! I'll keep y'all posted!
I have always thought your situation was positive. Keep up the good work. It sounds like it is paying off. I agree that you just need to replace those bad memories with some new and good ones.
The WAS is so sensitive that one bad day can really throw everything off.
Give him as many positives to remember as possible before he leaves for the military.
ITH
Me:34 H:36 M:5 years T: 8 years Bomb: 07/17/08 I want to be separated for 6 months--I don't know what I want the outcome to be S 07/28/08-11/08/08 Living together ~7 months D Possibly busted?!?!!!
I'm a little irratated right now because I hinted that Saturday would work for me and then he said it didn't matter because he has to work from 10 to 10. I know it is not his fault but I would feel better if he would have countered with another day, like Sunday.
So I just said "Hmm. Ok. Another day I guess" and now I am waiting to see if he says anything else.
We just need to rebuild our connection and make it really strong before he leaves, which seems to be further down the road than he insinuated the other day. But it will happen eventually.
Daisy!! Tisk Tisk!! No EXPECTATIONS!!!!! You only set yourself up for disappointment.
You have to let him move at his own pace and not have any expectations. You are doing wonderfully besides this. It is very good that your GAL has improved dramatically and you had a good time yesterday.
Relax...these things take time and you can't rush them along or else you risk backsliding. You are doing good...keep looking at the positives and be patient!!
You're doing well. Don't beat yourself up, as you didn't let your H know you had those expectations. That in and of itself is huge I think. I know we are supposed to not have expectations, but I still think it's human nature and they do creep in from time to time. As long as you can control your emotions associated with them, I don't think it's such a big deal (personally). You expected Saturday, it didn't work out, and though disappointed you now realize that this is OK. You have a solution. You're going back to your nice pink cave :).
Hope you're doing well!
ITH
Me:34 H:36 M:5 years T: 8 years Bomb: 07/17/08 I want to be separated for 6 months--I don't know what I want the outcome to be S 07/28/08-11/08/08 Living together ~7 months D Possibly busted?!?!!!
No contact today with hubby which annoys me slightly. I feel like he is ignoring me and it hurts my feelings. I'm trying not to let it get to me but it's starting to.
I think he may be doing this because he feels that he has nothing to offer me. His life is in turmoil and everything is up in the air for him. When my biggest need is stability it does not look too promising. I just wish he understood how much I missed him and that I do not need him to have his stuff together 100% to be able to spend time together. He said something the other day that keeps popping into my head. When I said I just needed stability he said "you and I both know that I don't have any to offer you." I feel like he might think he is a little worthless to me and I just don't know how I can make him see that I need and want him "as is." I guess he will just have to figure this out on his own because I have said me piece and am waiting for him to make the next move. As frustrating as that is right now.
But it's ok. I'll survive.