VS~ 72 hour rule, do not make any decisions with in 72 hours, and big decisions such as a D...i put in the one week to one month rule...meaning i give myself lots of time to think...is this what I really want.
Your family, and friends are not the ones who will have to deal with the repercussions of a D...you will...you are not in this alone...we are all here!
FIND A NEW THERAPIST!!! my MD once told me, therapists/counselors are like blind dates, it may take a couple before you find one you kinda like...if you and your IC don't see eye to eye, why continue to go. It is why I stopped seeing my IC...she convinced me a D was the only way, WOW!! WRONG ANSWER!!!
Buy a paint by numbers and do it upside down...it will work the left side of your brain...or something like that...long story short, it will preoccupy your mind! and get it off of the emotional stuff it is going thru. by the books (DB/DR)and read them!! then re-read them, and then re-read them....they are great resources!!
((VS)) I know you are frustrated, but do not worry, you are not alone, take some deep breaths, and take it minute by minute....no body ever said it would be easy...they just said it would be worth it....that's what a wise man once told me! Don't give up...you can do this!! Stick to your vows!! you're not dense, you are a fighter!!! Fight for what you believe in, the sanctity of your M!!!
(((((VS))))) christa
H-32 Me-29 T-10years M-4yr (10/04) Me- WAW 1/07 I filed for D 2/07 D put on hold 5/07 H re-files for D 9/08 WOW! trying MC 10/08
"Work like you don't need the money, dance like nobody is watching, love like you've never been hurt!"
