I learned how to survive without my Husband, and how to make my life happy even if he never came back. I learned that he is not my reason for living. I love my Husband. I am glad he is home. My Marriage is in a good place. I have learned that I do not need him to be happy, and that I am the prize, NOT him.
Bravo!! Well said!
It is so difficult to get everyone on DB to understand -- that until they stop putting their marriage restoration before their relationship with the Lord...it will never happen.
You are such a shining example of someone who "gets" it!
I feel so sad for all those who are truly only living from contact to contact with their H. Whose lives and moods are 100% determined by their H's actions.
Their posts sound like datebooks filled with notations of visits and words uttered by their H's. And they do not realize that they've turned both their H's and their desire for a restored marriage into idolatry.
You truly understood that until you put your 100% trust in God -- and as you said...knew to a certainty that you would be just fine with or without the restoration...
And most importantly LIVED your life that way -- that the restoration could not and would not happen.
You not only stood for your marriage -- you lived your faith.
