OK Lifeline...if you can be very blunt, honest and direct here (as much as is possible)...can you briefly describe why you had an affair? What did the OM offer you? Why did you turn down sex with your H before the affair? Why did you want sex with the OM?

I know these are painful and confusing questions...but I would like to hear the condensed version so I can offer more ideas and advice.

DQ