Originally Posted By: Gypsy
I'm not being selective in who I strike a conversation with
This is a freeing experience. Keep it up

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After 26 years of being with him, talking to other men is very different
It will get easier every time you do it. It will feel uncomfortable at first, but keep plugging along untill you are comfortable talking to every guy.

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I'm learning to let go of the protective shield to engage with other guys
Face your fears. You are a strong lady.


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Of course, my next problem is.. that with the sexual abuse, my trigger response to a guy being nice to me is that it should become sexual
It is OK to feel good when talking to guys. You know your boundaries. Set them. Move them when you are ready.

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In my twenties I didn't know how to handle that, somehow thinking that was 'normal'
it is normal

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...Now it's time to learn how to just 'be' without getting sucked into that twisted line of thinking...
Good boundary

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Very very strange... and it requires a lot a lot of trust.
You are in control of your thoughts,words and actions. Listen to that little voice....

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...I mean, how many guys would respect me learning my boundaries when sex could be 'that' close...
Most guys should NOT know the boundary is so close....may be a time for some personal growth to move your boundary

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I think that's another one of the reasons I keep the weight packed on
How does this make you feel?

*hugs*

"What is best for my kids is best for me"
Amor Fati
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