ACJ Thanks for your thoughts. I don't want to take control of the D because then H will say that I wanted a D and I wanted to get some more money. That is not at all the case. And on top of it I will have to pay for it as well.
I know though what you mean regarding taking control of the D and him seeing that I let go of him. Last time I told him I would give him a D he stopped the process because he said he was not sure whether he really wanted a D!
However, I don't think I ever lost my selfesteem.
I will think about your suggestion in any case. Thanks for this input.
