Confused is my permanent state of mind these days. We go from one mood to the next in a matter of seconds!!!

Hang in there. I think your H is doing some searching. That's a good thing. He's confused too. That may also be a good thing. Your approach for not pursuing is, I think, a good one...try to keep that up. But, I wouldn't remind him that's what you're doing. I do that...tell my H when I'm giving up, etc. so that maybe he'll say, "Don't!" But, that's an unrealistic expectation on my part, and I think I'd be much more effective if I'd just stop talking about it and start doing it.

You are doing great! And, he's thinking!!!

Take care!
Amy

Me 39 H 36
S 7 S 4
T 15 M 12
H out 8/1/08
OW confirmed 8/6/08
D final on 6/12/09...I'm doing good!