That is the million dollar question which we all wish we had the answer to.
I wasn't saying you shouldn't continue to stand I just wanted you to see that sometimes they have a different agenda to you. Like I said I really do hope that on this occassion our sitches will be different. I hope I haven't upset you.
My D is definately going ahead. At the moment I am trying to raise the equivalent of just over a year's wages in order to buy H out of our house. Its a lot more than I thought I would have to pay but right now I need closure and the alternative was to wait 5yrs until youngest D turns 18. We would definately be D by then b/c english law says that the petitioner doesn't need agreement from the respondent once you have been separated 5 yrs and its nearly 3 already. However, he would still have an equal financial concern with regard to house and I don't want to be paying the mortgage all that time just for him to reap the benefit. I've probably chosen (reluctantly) the more expensive route but it will definately be the route that leaves me in control of mine and D13s destiny and not H. God knows I don't want a D and he knows I have remained faithful to my H in every sense. I have nothing to fear come judgement day.
Me 43 XH 45 M 2.7.88 Divorce 7.10.09 Kids D20,S17 & D15
