My brother constantly reminds me.. "You are their mother. You will always be their mother." The whimperer within me sniffles, "So?". He points to our parents (who are still married) and asks me, "If mom had divorced dad, who would you turn to, who would make sure you had the birthdays, the celebrations, who would be safe?" The answer to each was my mom.
He tells me how good it is that the kids call me when something goes wrong, that I'm here, that I'm not going anywhere. That I'm their mom.
Sometimes what we take for granted in ourselves is the most treasured in the ones we love the most.
LWB, You are their wonderful mom, Easter bunny, Santa Claus, tooth fairy, birthday planner, prom planner, wedding planner rolled into one gorgeous package. NO ONE CAN TAKE YOUR PLACE!
Lots of love and may all you birthday wishes come true! Yoyo
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
Happy Birthday, LWB! Hope you're having a great day today!!!! Sorry about your H; sometimes they do the dumbest things! My C says her ex-H says introducing their girls to the OW before he was divorced is a major regret for him that apparently still haunts him today (and his relationship with his D's). Hopefully, your H will realize that at some point too... (((((LWB)))))
Understand precisely how you feel, hon. I remember when H and I were S'ed the first time, and I would always hear (that OP)'s name.....H would assure me she was nothing more than a friend.
Yeah. Whatever.
But hearing my boys telling me how much fun they had during their time with H, and (that OP) was with them......well, I was happy for my boys that they had fun.....but it still hurt something awful.
I should've been the one there having fun with them. Not (that OP).
However, like you, I had to remind myself of the same thing.....
I am their mom. I am their mom. I AM MOM, and I ALWAYS WILL BE.
Same goes for you!
(((((((BIG HUGS)))))))
And again, HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!
Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward. ~ Joseph Campbell
I hope you had the happiest of birthdays, in spite of your H's stupid selfishness. I know how difficult compartmentalizing these things can be.
This is one thing that will always get my goat, try as I might. I just cannot abide someone exposing their children to an adulterous partner -- I am sorry if that offends anyone, but that's just the cut of my sails -- and I am particularly sensitive to this because of my own case.
But yes, you will all ways be DDs' mother. H might stupid and foolish enough to try, but he can never take that away.
Hope you had a great Birthday. Your H is such an idiot right now and has been for quite a while. You my dear are an awesome mom and nothing can change that.
JAK
You don't get to choose how you're going to die. Or when, you can only decide how you're going to live now. ~Joan Baez
