I totally get that any debt in both spouses' names belongs to both. However, in CA, if you're getting D'ed and you have a separation date, whatever debt each spouse incurs after said date belongs to that individual party. The other is not responsible for it. I'm pretty sure it's the same for a LS, but not 100% sure.
My H (whom I'm S'ed from) could go out and buy a new car today if he wanted to, and I would be no part of that. That debt would be his alone.
Well right now, he's trying to get his own place - a condo - and he said because we're still legally M'ed that the lender wants to run a credit check on me. Just a credit check. Uh-uh. Sorry, not doing it. If he can't get the place entirely on his own, then he can wait til the D is final.
Sorry for the little hijack, Hopeful!
(((Hang in there!)))
Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward. ~ Joseph Campbell
