Alicia I've said for a while that our sitches have a similarity. After my H and I reconciled after our first split my H kept telling me it was me who wasn't trying hard enough, me who couldn't forgive (he was right on that one) etc etc. He made me feel like a bad person (just as your H is doing). After he left this time and while he was still prepared to talk to me he admitted that he had done all those things b/c he wanted me to leave so that he wasn't seen to be the bad person! The rest is history. I hope I'm wrong on this one.
Take care.
Me 43 XH 45 M 2.7.88 Divorce 7.10.09 Kids D20,S17 & D15
