OK, I'm going to confess some profoundly selfish feelings here. Can anyone relate to this?......I feel betrayed all over again because D is always so excited to see her father. I'm doing 99% of the parenting, the chauffering around, the homework, the boring everyday stuff, while he gets to have fun with her and then go off and pursue whatever self-actualization he chooses to do. I'm feeling a little like chopped liver.
((((HM))))) I can relate. When my 1st H and I were getting divorced my sons were about the same age as your D. I went thru these same issues and feelings.
It was all so unfair, and it broke my heart.
He and the OW reinforced that they were the "fun parents" and I was the bi@*h mom. Everyone told me that the boys would figure it out for themselves, and to just keep doing the right thing.
They were right. In time the boys, (now in their mid-twenties) saw she & he for what they are. They love their dad, flaws and all, but they are very vocal about their dislike of the OW. Honestly, I don't think kids ever forgive the OP for destroying the family.
I believe that what goes around does come back around. Usually not on the schedule that we would like, but it does happen.
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I think I need to bump up the zoloft.
Not a bad idea...but talk to your doc first
Last edited by 1hope; 09/25/0804:58 PM.
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