Hi MSF:

Sounds like all the things in your life are going so well. I am happy for you. You really do deserve it.

I suppose the only challenge is exorcising your X from your head. I cannot imagine his mistress being able to compare with you. He married a child and had a child with a child. You are such an intelligent and together woman - I am quite sure he misses an R with an adult - and if he were able to allow his brain to go there - I think he would miss you. He is so far into that ridiculous R - he is now stuck. I don't think he can even allow himself to think about what he walked away from and his life with you.

I hope you are at a point where you can believe in your heart that this was not about you.

And that change in life's infrastructure part is tough. That one was tough for me. That is probably why I haven't dated - i am afraid of another R destroying this infrastructure that I have rebuilt. Sometimes I think if you delay dating for too long - perhaps I have started harboring some unrealistic expectations...

I am just guessing at reasons why your X is still in your head - hoping one of them makes you feel better.

I still have my own firm. I love the independence. But also struggle with the lack of a predictable salary. I am getting better at trying to turn off the work stress so I can focus on getting more of a life.

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By the way I still have my baby blue Tbird!


I will probably be in CA sometime in February - I want a ride! I still have fond memories of our last photo-shoot with that car you rented when you were here.

Take care of yourself MSF. You deserve the best that life has to offer.

take care,
AG