Don't send it. When they are in the fog there is no amount of reasoning that can be done. I have learned that all normal common sense goes out the door. It would be to your disadvantage if you send it. It's in the no questions category.

They don't want to hear it and actually they have a conscience they know what they are doing is wrong but because of the addiction(I learned about the addiction from the book Surviving an Affair by Willard Harley) aspect they do not care. You can't really reason with an addict. There may be a time when you can but that's not for a long while yet.

Me-38 H-38
Married 18years
Daughter-17 & Son-9
Discovery of EA/PA 4/23/08
Left home 5/08/08
Moved in with OW 08/01/08

The only rock I know that stays steady, the only institution I know that works is the family.
-- Lee Iacocca