Personally I wouldn't send your H the article.....he will just dent that it relates to him. It took quite a while even after my H had ceased his A for him to be able to look at it with any sort of reason. I guess it probably took around a year before he could talk about it all sensibly. One day he eventually laughed and said that he had always thought of himself as being an original sort of guy....and now he realised that everything he did, in having his A, was so stereotypical!!! At the time though he could never have seen that.
Gather whatever information you can and use it to help yourself get through this awful time; sharing it however with your H is unlikely to better your cicumstances unfortunately.
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
