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Yes it is to buy him out the house. Things possibly might go better in court but that will take at least another twelve months and the costs would spiral out of control. There were other options I could've considered but I decided I needed to take the least risky path in terms of me and D13 being able to live where we want for as long as we want and this was it. I'm not happy that it will be me who ultimately issues D papers BUT at least this way history will record the true reason why our M fell apart. I just want closure on all of this. If we get back together in the future then all well and good but for now this is the way it has to be.

For those newbies who might be reading this I'd just like you to know that even getting the substantial amount of money that my H will more than likely receive from me does not make them happy!

One of the things my D18 wanted to know after the meeting was whether H and I had come to any agreement over helping her out financially at uni. It had not come into the convo and as H has originally told me it was none of my business he would liaise only with D18 on the matter she took it into her own hands again last night.

She had texted him earlier to ask if he had come to a decision based on the figures she sent him last week. He did not reply so she just turned up on the doorstep. She said things were already very tense when she got there. She thought OW had been crying and MIL was also there (to get the news about the meeting as D18 had evaded the question when she saw her earlier for coffee!) and she also seemed tense apparently. Anyway she and H sat down to discuss the issue at hand. He looked on the website of the uni she is going to (on Saturday). Eventually he decided that he couldn't commit to a regular amount and said he would only be able to give her money as and when he could afford it! He told her his credit cards debts had risen to £8k. Bla de bla.

So in one day H potentially gained more than a year's salary from me and lost a daughter b/c he won't invest in her future.

I think I am the lucky one. I may have to work forever but I know I will always have the love and support of my children and on my death bed I will have no guilt and no regrets.

To cap all this my S16 rang me at 7.15am this morning. He said H has forgotten to leave him any money for the bus to college and H was driving down south to a meeting. He wanted to know if I could pick him up and take him to college. I did exactly that and I have arranged to pick him up again at the end of the day. Was it convenient? No. Does my S16 know I am always there for him? Yes. For the record Hs actual response when S16 phoned him was for him to go across the road and ask a woman (who H knows and S16 doesn't) if she would lend him the money. What good parenting skills.