New Thread-Husband Moved in With OW(T2L)

[Trying2live]

Ya know you are strong too and we here all have our moments when we kinda go off course or screw up our 180 but we encourage each other to get right back up and forget about it and start over. Its when your in your darkest hours when you find your strength. Strength doesn't have a chance to shine unless it's during your challenges and trails.

If the discovery is new for you, don't put too much pressure on yourself. Your probably in shock mode. I was in shock mode for 2 months. It literally took 2 months for me to be able to feel and really cry. Yes I cried a little before that but not any good cries. I was just in shock. People thought i was strong but no I couldn't feel. Just take care of your self right now. Take extra time for yourself, a nap, pedicure, massage, go for a walk-really anything to pamper your self and get your mind off it.
Sometimes our minds, at least for me, is my worst enemy. I am on a mission to thought stop. IT's doable just takes extreme discipline. I feel better when those thoughts come and I say hey no, I'm not going there, I'm not going to meditate on that, get out of my head and I just turn my thoughts to positive things and faith filled things.

Ya know I wish I knew when the bleeding stops. Funny you say that. My favorite song since the start of this is a song called Bleeding Love by Leona Lewis.

I think it's different for everyone. Some people adjust quicker than others. But it doesn't matter as long as we get to that place.
Your going to make it, all of us are going to make it either way, and I guess the most important thing is that we can look back no matter the outcome and be proud of our efforts and the manner in which we walked through them. Were we bitter and hateful or despite the pain and betrayal or did we some how find the strength to take the higher road. Its hard and sometimes I goof and I say something kinda stinky because its easier to dump my pain back on H but then 10 minutes later I feel like crap and have to apologize. I've only had to do it once but I think that's enough for me.

At first all you can think of is, I want my life and husband back. Its all you can think about. But then a little more time goes by and you start realizing that you need to take care of yourself and get a life and do things so that you can make it the long haul if that's the choice. Build your self up, get strong, healed, and GAL that way if and when reconciliation happens you grew from the circumstance. I think in every circumstance and trial in life we have the choice to grow from and through it or conform to that circumstance. I dont want to conform to it. I know that there still is a life and purpose that I have and my kids have aside of my H, but I'm hoping it'll eventually be with and not with out.
My encouragement to you and all of us, as it was told to me by my Pastor. Use this time to find your self and who you are.

GAL-so important. Come here and vent anytime all the individuals on the thread are amazing. We pull each other up. It's truly amazing to me.