I'm sorry about everything you are going through now. I can't even imagine the pain. I wish I could beat up your DAM too! He is being BEYOND ridiculous. He is so topsy-turvy he doesn't even know which way is up! Grrr!!! DAM, DAM, DAM.
I honestly don't think staying in the friends house is a mistake, you will at least feel better than you do now in Poland. A little less isolated. I would imagine. It will give more time to sort things out.
But honestly I think you really should do a little research into a legal separation. Your man is not thinking right now, period. You need to protect yourself. There would be ways of dividing things up and figuring out the debt in a way that would offer you a safety net. I know you do not like the idea because it is closer to divorcing but I also think you would feel much much better to have some protection against his insanity. I like what BH said that he might just have to drop out of school to pay his bills. Tough cookie to him! He needs a reality check and the sooner the better. For your sanity at least look into it.
And you are right, back waaaay the heck up and do not talk to him anymore. If he IMs ignore, if he calls ignore. You are going dark sista! Let him see how like is without you at his beck and call.
