So, tonight was my meeting with my IC. He basically had three things to say. First, he said that the kids are hurting now and they are learning a very poor model for relationships and they are in limbo. Secondly, he said that my willingness to move on shows my growth. Lastly, he said that in his opinion, I should seek full custody of the kids because she isn't behaving in a rational and responsible manner right now.
This is the second live person to tell me that I should seek sole custody of the kids. Both Sandi and PDT urged me in my thread on infidelity to seek full custody of the kids. So, I called my D12's best friend's Mom who is someone I respect and I asked her opinion and she said that while she is normally in favor of joint custody, she also thinks that I'd be foolish to not seek sole custody of the kids. So, the plan is to make an appointment next week with a lawyer to discuss the tactics of filing for a divorce and requesting custody of the kids. I won't let anyone else make this decision for me. I've gotten input from people that I trust and respect and now I have to think about what they've said and what I've seen in my wife and her behavior and decide what is the best course to follow.
The friend's Mom mentioned that it was hard for her to see my kids so excited that they got to talk to their Mother for a few minutes on the telephone. Wow, that hurts to really think about that one.
