Hi NG- I have been wondering about you and I am glad that you are finding comfort and support with your friends. I can only imagine the relief (and pain) now that the people who care about you know what is going on. I know when my H left, my friends and family wanted smack my H too...there are some that still do but I really think most are following my lead. If I forgive him, so will they.
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H acts like this is the most natural situation in the world, the kids seem fine, I seem fine, he offers lots of help with the kids (when he isn't in a trial).
Key word is seems...it is all a house of cards...give it time.
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I just wonder... no one is telling him he is making very bad choices and there don't seem to be any consequences, he really does have it all. HIS world is perfect.
You would think someone would be standing up to him and pointing out that his moral compass is broken. I wonder too if sometimes a good dose of reality is just what they need...but people in MLC live in denial of the truth. Their brains are scrambled and they can't handle the truth (especially coming from us)until they are ready to hear it...if ever.
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He doesn't make any excuses to come and see me or talk to me. He only comes over or talks to me when he absolutely has to. He is "nice", but really only treats me politely like a relative he has to tolerate.
Try not to dwell on this too much...your H just left the house. I am sure he thinks his new found freedom is the greatest...but that will lose it's luster and then who knows what will happen. Just keep acting happy and confident and eventually you actually will be...regardless of what your H does.
I hope you and your kids are doing as well as can be with everything going on. Keep us posted on how you all are doing.
