Hi T2L, that was a great post. How true, we are so worried about their needs we are forgetting our own. How can we make these marriages work unless we change significantly also. When I reconcile (positive imagery) I do not want to go back to the same old marriage. I want changes that will make us both happy. Someone told me that instead of serving God first, that I was treating my H as God, serving him totally. Need to step back work on myself and let God work on him and trust in him. Trying. Weird thing, have been dbing the last 4 days and even though H is seeing OW, he has been home a bit more and has not mentioned the move, D, or when to tell Ds. Last time he talked about all this was Sunday morning. I know it is in his head and I know he he is supposed to move on Wed, but normally I would be pushing him or trying to control the situation asking when will you do this, are you packing -- instead I have been saying nothing, keeping out of his way and it is calm (before the storm) but for today I am grateful Also on another note - a HR Manager position just came up on job post. I want to apply for it and then my first assignment can be to fire the OW...(wouldn't that be something)
Me 53 H 50 D16, D29 M 22 years bomb 7/08 INH - alien pod replaces H 8/08 - OW (direct report), I work there also bomb II - H moves 10/1 expose ow 10/22 D to be final 9-09
