Another one for me

[sandycay]

Sister, I know the Hash bothers him big time. You know what...that pisses him off too. Look he acts like he's bugged by something everytime you do it. He really doens't want it to bug him but it does. That's very confusing to him...my H said this. "Everytime I would think about things that had to do with you, it confused me. I would ask myself why do I care if I love her but am not in love with her."

The day I sat in front of him talking about a D, I had papers in my hand and everything....I said to him at one point "sooner or later someone else will live here and I don't think you want to agree to giving me that kind of money" "Honey, I will get remarried as I am not meant to go through this life alone, I am sorry and I don't want it to be that way" Well, he said NOTHING to that except "yea he wouldn't like that". Now, I figured it was all about the money. He then left and I thought shiat! I guess I am getting a Divorce.....phone records show he immediately call "her" talked and then called his DA brother (who by the way left his wife 3 yrs ago & still aren't D'd)...well he had the kids that night...I went out and GAL that evening thinking that was it, it is over...he didn't try to stop it....I got home at 12;30 and the phone rang at 2:30am and the rest is history.

I also thought in my H's case it was like a light bulb but you know what he said....when he was signing is Apt lease he was thinking to himself...damn I got to live here till August.....

Little things backup what he says ie. ...he kept all the boxes to things he bought in case he came back so he could return them.

Your H has said he has thought about returning.

Keep up that patience and try to rely on him less for mundane stuff....he wants you . By the way, we never ML after he left the house. He could barely look at me and I think I got 5 hugs during the 4 or so months he was gone. He said he thought about it but felt it was wrong...would lead me on...also that would make him a cheater......He now hides his head in shame when he thinks of the stupid stuff he said.

You can't figure these weirdos out and nothing anybody says or does will help.