OK here are some updates... I also post on Newcomers as I seem to be getting different responses and people.
To answer some of the questions... I did decided to disclose to his Mom (but not the OW) as I could tell she could hardly handle the news I was giving her. She overwhelms easily. I also called his brother and then sent an email to him and his wife with all the OW details as I knew my H would not go there.
My family knows and now a couple of friends (my friends)
I want to somehow let his boss and the Ow Boss know without it coming from me. My H is having the A with one of his distributor sales reps... a big no no!! I think his boss would call him out on it. thoughts to this???
Also, I have been contemplating emailing the OW to tell her what she is getting into and all about his family history.... not sure this is the right move or not... I do feel like I want to shout it from the roof tops at what he is doing to his wife and babies... but I think that would be the end of us if I do this too.
Updates from this week: It has been three days since he packed up some stuff and moved... He didn't know where he was going to stay and I know this week he has been staying with OW.. which makes me sick (but on the other hand let them get sick of each other that much quicker) He came to the house yesterday to get some work stuff ( we both work from home) I had left him a letter - similar approach from the book "love must be tough" telling him how if feel and that I won't tolerate him disrepecting me in our house while seeing the OW and poured out some heart felt feelings... felt this might be the last time I can do this. Anyhow, I think he was getting little choked up reading it. He then came upstairs to the game room to say bye to our daughter and she kept asking him "why do you have to leave" can I go with you, when are you coming back etc... he left down the stairs in a hurry and was crying.. our Nanny told me he was crying when he left as well... About damn time... I haven't seen any tears from this emotionalist man so I was excited that he is struggling ...
He came over this morning b/c I had to catch an early flight for work and he just says nothing... this person I could always talk too... he has no words to say to me anymore. It is driving me crazy... is this normal?? I decided after Monday I was going to stop asking questions, realizing that I wouldn't get answers anyhow, and try to go semi "dark" ... drives me crazy not knowing what he is doing.... how can he separate his family life of 10 yrs and turn it off and be with her and staying with her.... are they just ordering in pizza and watching movies... the OW being 25 has no obligations so I'm sure they can just do anything on the spur of the moment....
I want to ask him where he thinks he is going to be living???? He said he was going to try not to get an appt right now for expense purposes and not to have to move stuff out of the house... it is my right to know... but what if he says with her??
I'm sure this will get easier in time but being in our house alone and doing all this by myself is hard and I'm struggling and crying everyday... so hard.
please any feedback.... Oh I also gave him the divorce petition to hold everything status quo and I hope this doesn't back fire b/c I'm not ready to go down the divorce road yet...
hopeful!!!
Me: 38/H:40 M:7yrs TG: 10yrs 2Girls: 4yr & 7 month old Bomb 8/22/08 OW/EA/PA 8/23/08 with 25yr old Moved out 9/22/08
