Is there a glimmer of hope for I'mstillhopeful ?

[I'mstillhopeful]

I was home for one day and then away for the long weekend. I was to meet a friend for the day in a town somewhat distant from our house, the next day I was to go to a meetup dining group in the same town. I notified H by e-mail that I would be away until Sunday.

On Saturday he stopped by our house to pick up some muffins that my mother had sent home for him. He called me on my cell phone and was so warm and friendly I thought he had misdialed and had meant to be calling the OW: "Good Morning! So you're up? How are you?" Very surprising. The signal was weak and we were disconnected several times but he called back 5 times and his final message was to wish me a wonderful day.

When I got home on Sunday I noticed that he had left some cookies from a bakery near his apartment. (My DB coach has noticed that H shows caring and connection through food.)

I didn't have any contact with him until Wednesday when I noticed that he had left a message on his business phone in his home office. He had tried unsuccessfully to reach me on our home phone and "was checking to see if I had arrived home safely from my weekend away." Thinking he was seeing patients and had his cell phone turned off I telephoned to tell him that all was fine. He answered and seemed happy to hear from me. He was surprised to learn that I would be flying to England next week. Just to update anyone who hasn't been following my saga - H booked 4 trips to celebrate our 25th wedding anniversary. He reluctantly took the first two and bailed out on the last two. I cancelled the fourth and paid my own way on the third.

A few minutes later H telephoned to offer to take me to the train station before my departure and to collect me when I returned. This is not an insignificant offer. It requires a one hour drive North to pick me up, then a two hour drive South to the train station, and another one hour drive back to his apartment. Even if he withdraws the offer, I am walking on air that he even considered extending himself in that way.

Caveat: I'm probably setting myself up for a huge disappointment. It is possible that he is so happy with OW that he can afford to assuage his guilt by being so nice. If anyone has experience along these lines I hope you'll add input whether my thinking is convoluted, or, if the DB'ing is beginning to show results.