New Thread-Husband Moved in With OW(T2L)

[Trying2live]

Hey guys, a friend sent this to me today. It really helped me as my brain is having a field day. Maybe it will help some of you. It helped me. Gonna try to figure out what I need to do to get to that place...enjoy......She says:

When a situation like this drags on for 5 months, 6 months, etc, and I start seeing the Betrayed Wife post about how she always used to say "yes,yes,yes" and "I'm sorry" in order to keep the peace,
I start to get the impression that perhaps the Lord wants you to grow more before things will change. Perhaps you are still spending to much time worrying about him, and what he is thinking, and how can you get him back, and what is going to happen, etc. Instead, right now, you should be worried about you. Plain and simple. you. what you are thinking,what you are doing, what you want out of life. Because as you start to grow, and become stronger, it will be easier to answer your own questions,and easier to tolerate him, and in fact you will become more attractive to him as well.

I remember at one point I made a list for myself, of things to accomplish for myself. There were some small things on there: clean out kitchen cupboards, wash curtains. But there were a few big thigns as well. And I just set out to take care of my list, and quit worrying about him. and in the meantime, I became stronger, wiser, better able to re-build my M, or go through a D, however it ended up.

Perhaps that is why you are in limbo right now? The Lord is waiting for you to gain your strength first before you go forward?