A, Your response to his self pity phone call was perfect. He's feeling sorry for himself and also trying to project everything on to you. You do realize that his perception of his life is off kilter?
Any way, he's probably done something stupid and who knows what it is. It could be he's started the paperwork for the divorce...who knows. All you can do is live your life to the fullest and right now, that's day to day. You just don't know if he was actually being honest about doing something or bluffing. Time will tell.
I'm very sorry you are going through this. I wish I had a magic wand to make it all disappear.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
