I have some questions for you. You've mentioned that you have read both the Sex-Starved Marriage and the Sex-Starved Wife. Both books promote a pragmatic, trial-and-error, goal-setting and goal-monitoring approach toward solving your SSM, with either one or both partners working the issue. There are sections specifically addressed to the LD partner, the HD partner, and both partners working together.
(1) What was your experience with these books?
(2) Did you set any goals and begin working the issue on your own? What seemed to be working and what didn't?
(3) What goals could you possibly set now, and seek to impliment in your relationship?
Best regards,
Bagheera
Me 50, W 45, M for 26 yrs S25, D23, S13, S10 20+ year SSM; recovery began Oct 2007
