Rob, I am so sorry to hear this and shocked at the parent evaluator. How could he not see that someone who has a casual boyfriend "sleep over" in front of a young child is not responsible. Unbelievable, but who knows what kind of dirty pool her L played. The only positive thing about this is that it will be easier on your D not to have to live in 2 homes. Her main one just should have been with you especially with your W's drinking. I am sure you encounter many students as I do who say they left their homework or text book at their Father's or Mother's and they are not going to be there till next week. Going back and forth between 2 places is so hard on kids. I know you are devastated but you don't know what the future holds. Right now your W is pissed because of money. Maybe after the reality of being a single parent kicks in, things will be different. She may ask you take D more and more in the future as some of her om's might feel a young child cramps their style. Have a good cry and then try to realize that at least you will now be sure of when you will see D. Did the parent evaluator say anything about vacations? Maybe you can tell your lawyer to go for this in with the judge. Feel better!
