When I talk to the wife, I have to assume she is lying first and then verify stuff. Sucks, but they put themselves in that position. How can we believe ANYTHING they sat to us?
Your dead on with the actions and not words.
You can't and I've been burnt one too many times with this. I have caught him in lie after lie, so I really don't believe anything he says. I see some small improvements but I will have to see so much more for me to really believe.
There is still SO much stuff that has to happen before this can truly come to some resolution. Right now its just a waiting game. Nothing will move forward until this child is born and that is just the way things are. Its like waiting for the other shoe to drop and there is still 7 weeks to go, but that will be good for H to keep going to the C and for me to work on things for me and we'll see where this craziness leads.
When we were talking yesterday H actually said, "you never know whats going to happen. You could decide in two weeks that you are just done with this whole thing and tell me to f off." I really couldn't disagree but didn't agree either...
I have finally come to the conclusion that no matter what the outcome is, I have done the best I could and if we end up D'ing. I will be fine. I would be sad, of course, but I would know that I had done everything I could do and would be able to move on.
M:39 H:39 K:S14;D8 T:22yr M:15yrs S:12/28/07 EA/PA 3/14/08 OW preg 11/17/08 born 12/12/08 his ~~~~~~~ Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option